So I’ve come across a certain style of thinking that I’ve always found…intriguing.. for lack of a better term and I’d like to share that idea with you all.
Now I’m sure your all aware of the proclaimed ‘double standard’ that lies between men and women, the idea that men can sleep around and be studs and women can sleep around and be whores and how it’s unfair etc etc.
One of the ideas that spun off this way of thinking is a ‘balancing of the scales’ so to speak, in which a woman can be as sexually uninhibited and unquestioned as a man is, which is great, a woman shouldn’t be inhibited with anything a man is allowed to do… my problem lies with the idea that spun off of that idea.
Maybe you’ve heard this story before. Girl meets guy. Girl dates guy. Girl sleeps with Guy. Guy leaves Girl. Turns out he was only in it for the sex. So now the Girl is bitter, feels like she was used and decides from now on that she’ll do the using. She’ll use men for sex just like men used her. And some of her girls cheer her on for ‘taking the reigns’ on this gender war. Seems like a good idea in theory right?
But here’s the problem I have with this style of thinking. What exactly is gained from ‘using men for sex?’ I don’t get it. So you’re tired of men who only try to sleep with women so your solution to that is to continue to sleep with them only now you(supposedly) don’t care as much? What lesson do the men that you sleep with learn from your new style of thinking, if there is any lesson at all? If anything you’re probably sexing more freely than you were before you thought this way, so they’re still getting what they want, just faster.
Which brings me to my next point, a hoe is a hoe is a hoe. Male or Female, doesn’t matter, if you constantly do hoe like actions then you’re a hoe. I’ll break it down further.
Nobody truly likes hoes, hoes give a bad name to whatever gender they are, giving reason for all sorts of unreasonable ideas about said gender. Men, contrary to popular belief, don’t like male hoes as much as women don’t like female hoes, the only difference is we’re not(maybe) as disgusted with them as women are with theirs.
I’ll use Lil Wayne as an example. He’s a self proclaimed ‘whore'(no really he said it himself) and he’s got quite a few baby mamas under his belt, all attractive in their own right. Let’s take Lauren London out of that bunch to further my example. I think Lauren London can easily attract whatever kind of guy she wants to, at least from an aesthetic viewpoint(she seems like a nice girl too though) yet she gets knocked up by Lil Wayne. Ok Cool. Am I impressed by that fact? In a sense,yes. I’m impressed with whatever it is that Lil Wayne portrayed that convinced Lauren London that he was worth sleeping with because I really would not have expected that link up to happen going off of my impressions of both people’s personalities. However, I do NOT respect Wayne any more or less because he got Lauren London. One does not help the other. He’s still a whore. This is something women can relate to as well. You can be impressed by a girl getting a man that you didn’t think she could right? Do you respect her more because of it? Probably not, especially if you think that girl is a hoe. I may be the only person who thinks this way I don’t know.
Here’s my overall point. Regardless of what you may think, the reality is that the sexual playing field for men and women is leveling every day. Of course there are still undertones of the double standard, just like any other outdated ideal of thinking because the people that were raised under those ideals still exist and will continue to pass on those ideals. However, if you’re of the newer generation then again you know certain ideals are rapidly becoming extinct but until they do here’s something to think about. If you’re one of the people who’s desire is to ‘even the playing field’ on an already dying ideal then you’re only doing more damage than good. Maybe, just maybe, and call me crazy for thinking this, but maybe you could try NOT sharing the false mindset that every man that meets you only wants to sleep with you and be done, and instead be extra cautious with who you do decide to share your body with so the person that does get that privilege is all the more grateful for it, and you don’t end up regretting that decision. Just something to consider.
