Stop Lying to Yourself:Appearance Edition

Self Esteem is at an all time low nowadays and insecurity is rampant. It’s fairly uncommon to meet people with a relatively good level of self esteem. Typically you find people that are ridiculously cocky, ridiculously insecure, or somewhere in between leaning towards one or the other. This post is dedicated to the People with unvalidated cockiness only because I find them to be especially annoying.

I think we can all agree that cockiness is never truly attractive, even when it’s being displayed by an attractive person. Telling a girl she looks nice and having her respond ‘I know’ does nothing but make my pimp hand twitch(old occupations die hard) and overall I try to stay away from people like that or keep them as acquaintances. But what really has me in awe, more so than annoyed, are people who have no right to be cocky. That’s right. The aesthetically challenged.

I know what you may be thinking.. “oh that’s messed up, How are you going to go in on ugly people? or ‘How can you call people ugly? Isn’t everyone pretty in their own way?’-that last part is partially true. I think everybody has at least one thing about them that can make them attractive, but i think that ‘pretty in their own way’ is like trying to cover up that some people are very good looking and some are not. Not only that but we all have a good idea of how physically appealing we are to people. I’ll even use myself as an example.

I have enough self confidence to know that I am an attractive man. No ego. I also know that I couldn’t have come to this conclusion without the responses and opinions of other people. I know what my physical strengths are and I think I use them pretty well but i also know my physical ‘limitations’ for lack of a better term. Though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, Nobody has to tell me that I’m not one of the top 5 attractive men on earth(if that even exists) I know that there are hundreds of men out there that are generally better looking than me, just as well as I know that there are millions(see what i did there) of men that are not, and I’m cool with that, whatever I lack physically I try to make up with personality, but some people out there refuse to let their personality be a driving point of their appeal.

I’ve seen people on Twitter, People on Facebook, People walking the streets, etc who dress and carry themselves in a way that you would think they know it doesn’t fit their appearance. No matter what you tell yourself, a bikini does not look good on Everyone it’s not supposed to, and I think people need to start accepting that how they look may not necessarily fit every dress style and therefore they should work what they got to the best of their ability. But until that happens, I guess we all are going to have to bear with the people who decided to overcompensate for their insecurities.