Alright so this is a post I’ve been meaning to do for awhile but of course more pressing priorities arose etc etc..
A while back, I had a conversation with a friend about which gender says and does what when they’re rebounding and I figured I would share my ideals on that topic with the masses.
For everybody who’s unfamiliar with ‘rebounding'(if that’s even possible) basically it’s when someone who has gotten out of a relationship jumps into another relationship/dating scenario in a short time period(typically 3 months or less) with their ‘rebound’ guy or girl. This rebound person typically doesn’t last for too long, and more times than not, it’s not their fault. To put it simply, they were a means to an end.
However, this ‘means’ can differ dramatically for men and women… Here’s how:
MEN:
A man will typically only look for a rebound chick when he was the one who was broken up with. This is because him being dumped is like a backhand to his ego, especially when he didn’t see it coming. So what he does is he finds whatever girl that he knows had a crush on him and jumps into a relationship with her, usually to prove that he can get a new girl like
The need to prove this point can go to the extreme, especially if he’s trying to make his ex feel remorseful. Public announcements of ‘how great his new girl is’ and how much he ‘loves her’ come frequently even though he knows that there’s some thing(or multiple things) about her that fall short in comparison to his ex girlfriend and that this facade won’t last . Simply put, he just doesn’t want to look like a sucker
WOMEN:
As Usual, Women tend to be the OG’s when it comes to relationship tactical warfare. Whether a woman is broken up with or does the breaking up she may still snatch a rebound except her reason is slightly different. She’ll do it to prove that yes she can a find a new person quickly AND that he’s better than her ex, and more often then not, he actually is.
Like i said in an earlier post, women definitely get more experience when it comes to dealing with interested parties, so they’re better at weeding out who actually is a nice guy that likes them and who pretends to be.
So even though the rebound guy is admittedly a better catch then the ex, the girl will never truly fall for him but he does make for a good look should your ex say something reckless like “You’ll never do better than me”
Point of the matter is, Rebounding is never really a good look, in my opinion. Look at it like this, you’ve been given a gift. You’re single. You no longer have to deal with any of your ex’s crap and are once again free to do as you please, why would you willingly jump into being tied down again so soon? Unless… you’re one of Those insecurewithself people in which case, God help you. And yes, no one really gets hurt because yes, the rebounds knew what they were signing up for but still, nothing wrong with showing your ex you’re doing just fine on your own.
Just my thoughts.
I don’t think the “re-bound” thing is intentional in most cases, alot of times we were in a relationship so long that we get accustomed to having a companion. Sometimes people r just lonely and vunerable, so we unintentionally look for a friend. One thing leads to another, and before u know it..ur spending more time w/ this person than u realize…and usually it’s not the right person for us – but just like previous relationships that may not have worked out for us…we don’t know until we’ve spent the time.
Well I don’t mean to imply that the only type of rebounding is intentional, as the example you provided can be the case more times than not, I just felt that the general outlines of intentional rebounding would be more of an interesting read.