So I’m making my daily rounds on Twitter(I’m not going to lie, it inspires me) and I come across a specific quote from several females on my Timeline that says the following:
“Bad Guy’s Ain’t No Good But Good Guys Ain’t No Fun!”
I could only assume that 1.) It was a song lyric and 2.) The song lyric was from a woman whose song encourages the same kind of backwards thinking that most women incorporate into their lives until reality backhands a bit of sense into them.
Although truthfully, they make little attempt to hide it, women from all walks of life are typically attracted to the bad boy image, and guys of all types are well aware of this and will even try play off of that image if it is within their ability to do so. For awhile I couldn’t figure out what it was about a bad guy that could catch so many women’s attention until, after years of observation, it clicked.
Women are attracted to unpredictability of a bad guy.
It’s actually very simple when you think about it. Nice guys are predictable, very predictable. Even the most unpredictable thing a nice guy can think of is predicted by a woman to some extent. As a girl you expect nothing less than for a nice guy to have the ability to sweep you off your feet. Good morning texts, planning small romantic events/gifts for no particular reason, etc etc is typical fanfare for a genuinely nice guy. Women love that. I can’t think of one girl who just does not like sweet gestures from their man. The problem is that too much of this kind of thing can become dull very quickly, especially if the woman isn’t surprised by anything the guy does. This is where the allure of the bad guy comes in.
The bad guy doesn’t do sweet things, and if he does, it is on the rarest of occasions. In fact, if a woman can get a “bad” guy to send so much as a good morning text, she feels like she’s making headway because he “doesn’t do that for just anyone.” It’s really no surprise to hear how many girls try to reform their bad boy so that they can enjoy the best of both worlds: A little sweetness + the unpredictability. What they don’t seem to know/take a very long time to figure out, is that this combination of man simply does not exist.
Yes that’s right. Sorry to curb stomp your dreams ladies, but you should know that you’re never going to find a guy who can give you the best of both worlds.
It’s actually kind of weird to me. I would think that, after generations of dealing with men, that women as a whole would have picked up on this fact by now. What makes the situation even more strange is that men have long since figured out that they’re never going to get their perfect combination of women either, and they’re cool with that.
It would be great if I could find a woman who had an equal level of interest in the things that I did and was also able to fully retain her femininity but that’s simply not the case. I’m not going to find the type of girl that I like who is also going to watch sports with the same intensity that I do or play video games with the same intensity that I do, and I’m cool with that.
So what I’m going to do now is what I do best and give you all some hard truths about this whole nice guy, bad guy thing and you can do with the information what you please. Apply it, Pass it on, whatever.
Women, if it hasn’t already, chasing the bad boy will blow up in your face: Like anything else in life, A person isn’t going to change until they’re willing to change. The black knight is not going to slowly transform into your knight in shining armor because you want him to, it’s not going to happen. At some point the bad guy is going to do something typical of his personality that’s going to leave you hurt,heartbroken,bitter or all three, and you may not learn your lesson initially but eventually the allure of the bad boy will die down.
So, of course, you then try to shift your attention to the nice guy who, tired of ‘finishing last,’ would welcome you with open arms, at least once upon a time. But the times are a changing and nice guys everywhere have peeped game.
See nice guys realize from a young age that they’re nice guys, especially when the girls they try to win over ignore them for some douche bag. And with the unexplained rise of douche bag men in the world, the stock of nice guys has seen a substantial rise. They’re harder to find and therefore generally more appreciated when they are found, especially later on in life. However, most girls don’t realize this right away and of course fail to take advantage of having found a good guy when the opportunity first presents itself.
Now that the nice guy is aware just how “rare” he is, you’d better believe he is going to use that to his advantage. We’re living in a generation where people like to make a lot of mistakes first and learn from them later, only when that later comes around, whoever has the least mistakes ends up with the biggest advantage. Why does a nice guy suddenly have to be willing to want you now that you want him, when he knows for a fact that there will be other contenders looking for a man like him, and will possibly even appreciate him more than you could?
I’m not saying that from now on you should try to seriously date the next nice guy you meet but what I am saying is that it could be a very long time before you come across another guy with good intentions and that you may find yourself having to fight for his attention during the next go round.
In conclusion I just thought it’d be best to make all you ladies aware of the situation that you may knowingly or unknowingly involve yourself in, leaving you to decide if it’s something worth involving yourself in. This is also to make all of the men aware that who you are as a man does not go unnoticed by women in the slightest. Staying true to yourself is probably the best thing you can do in order to attract the opposite sex, at least in my opinion. But what do you all think?
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