There are few things more terrifying to a man (that women are unsurprisingly not subjected to enough of) in regards to relationships, than the possibility of being placed in the friend zone. In some ways, it’s actually worse than being hated because at least when you’re hated, you have a clear definition of where you and the other person stands. With the friend zone though, things can get very confusing even though there’s somewhat of a “mutual understanding.”
But before I get into all of that, allow me to give my personal view as to why I think the friend zone exists and spoiler alert yes a majority of the blame is placed on women.
Now we all are aware that men tend to make most of their decisions from a logical standpoint and that women tend to make most of their decisions from an emotional standpoint. So when it comes to the friend zone, that difference in decision-making is most of the reason why so many guys are placed in the zone while most women are not.
You want to know why most girls aren’t intentionally placed in the friend zone? Because it’s not very logical. On more occasions than women are probably willing to admit, the guys that end up in the friend zone would actually make good significant others, it’s just that the girl doesn’t think that she could ever “see him in that way.”
Do you know what a guy calls a girl who would make for a good girlfriend? His girlfriend.
Not all the time but that usually is the case.Guys don’t usually do the “she’s a great person but I don’t know if I can see her like that” nonsense. I have yet to either A.) be in a situation where I choose to friend zone someone who I could see myself dating or B.) see another male friend in that type of predicament.
Guys usually just know. Either I like you and would definitely date you given the opportunity or I’m not attracted to you and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to change my mind… Ever.
On the other hand, from a guy’s perspective, a female friend may pull him in and out of the friend zone as she sees fit. You think that any sane guy would hold on to hopes of a relationship if there was nothing there? Some women will claim to not be aware that they’re doing this, while others know exactly what they’re doing. I mean how else could you keep the interest of a man who would possibly make for a great boyfriend yet you somehow can’t wrap your mind around wanting him BUT still won’t risk the chance of him letting those feelings go? (I understand if you have to go back and re-read that sentence slowly.. take your time)
So essentially the Friend Zone exists because women need somewhere to place men who are too attractive(physically and/or personality wise) to be acquaintances but aren’t attractive enough to be lovers… In other words the guy becomes that gay best friend that would definitely jump at the chance to sleep with them.
And while guys never truly understand why this is so,(we do operate from a viewpoint of logic after all) in these situations we never truly distance ourselves because we figure that there must be some way to tip the scales in our favor right?… Right?
Which is what actually gave me inspiration for this post in the first place. One of my friends and I were having this conversation the other day… If it was possible for a guy to get himself out of the friend zone and into a relationship of his own free will.
The answer?
Theoretically it’s possible. I mean there’s a chance that eventually the girl may realize what a good potential match she has in one of her closest male friends, and that will then lead to something more but that’s only if and/or when she’s ready…
Ladies, what do you think? Is there anything a guy can do (or not do?) to capture your romantic interest once you’ve dropped him off in the place of seemingly no return? Or do you just end up having some sort of epiphany and realize “what’s been there all along?”
Let me know in the comment section below.
It’s simple. Grow some balls. The world and your friendship won’t end over being straight up and asking her to go on a date. Even if you know shes crazy she wont kill you for asking. And if you are really friends out will give her something to consider it something to laugh about.
Or!…. She’ll already know the the answer is no. tell you no. and you move on.
Simple. You are her friend. But above all you are a man. Be one. woman want one.
You think that a guy that’s been friend zoned hasn’t tried to leave? lol it should be as simple as you laid out but usually it’s not.
From what I’ve seen in my life, the girls who place guys in the friend zone do so because they “wouldn’t want to risk losing the friendship” yet are the same ones who want their man to be their “best friend”
If that doesn’t scream “I’m not sure what I want” I don’t know what else does. A girl could want a man, the guy approaches her like one, and then she goes in circles in terms of her response.